Social gatherings. Hanging out with people, on purpose. Face-to-face communication. What a concept. No matter your experience with gatherings of the social type, you are well aware that these events can form a large part of your social life and sometimes also be a source of anxiety.
For me being cool never really something I was after. I wanted to understand why my voice would shake sometimes when I was talking about a topic that really mattered to me, I wondered why I would go out of my way to avoid any conflict with anyone and I wanted to learn how to say my piece without worrying about how it sat with someone else, good or bad.
So, I sought guidance, you’d be surprised how many of us are going through the same daily struggles. Surrounded by so many influences, I found myself walking around voiceless – just existing and doing things that I didn’t even really know I wanted to do. I believe that the community we grow up in plays such a vital role in a child’s confidence as they get older – were you surrounded by people who constantly reminded you to stay true to yourself? Or, were you told that the way you did things or thought wasn’t right?
Find what YOU like and then fight to just do that, EVERYDAY. I gained my confidence through fitness, as cliché as that may sound, when I started with fitness, about 8 years ago, it was a world that made no sense to anyone around me and that made me want to hold on to it even tighter. I didn’t have to share how it made me feel with anyone unless they were really inspired and were seeking the same change for themselves. It challenged me physically, grew me mentally, truly advanced my spiritual journey and taught me the true meaning of discipline.
There is just something very powerful that no amount of how-to lists can teach you about stepping into your greatness. Doing that thing that sets your heart on fire, gives you a confidence that is inexplicably priceless.
Anxiety, fear, doubt and stress, let that all go and choose to live a fulfilled life, doing what you want, when you want do it, how you want it.
If you ever find yourself feeling anxious, ask yourself – Who am I trying to please? Because that anxiety is often tied to an external often unrealistic expectation that someone or society puts on you but yet has nothing to do with who you are and what your true destiny is.
Wash your face girl, and set yourself free from those expectations, realistic or not.
If you are interested in talking steps towards mastering the art of being yourself, recommend reading books like The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*** or listening to Lewis Howes podcast School of Greatness.
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