‘’I refuse to be loved in half measures,
I didn’t spend years teaching myself that,
I am worthy of oceans for you to show up here
With knee-deep love.’’ S.R.W
I have seen something over the past 48 hours that prompted me to write about a very well-known commonality in our society – Cheating.
I do not know why I tend to always see too much or read too much into situations and people’s nonverbal cues. At times I wish it was a trait I did not have.
After seeing the unthinkable I went to twitter and I posted the following:
What do you do if you find out your significant other is cheating? Do you ignore it and wish it away? Do you confront him? Do you confront her/him? Do you walk away?’
I have been cheated on, more than once.
At times knowingly (and I chose to ignore it, priding myself that he will come back to me when he is bored eventually), and at other times unknowingly.
I am a fairly laid back partner, I don’t check up on you, so you should not as well. I always give you the benefit of the doubt.
I don’t reach for your phone, ever, so you should also not reach for mine.
If you do, I refuse to defend myself, neither answer questions of things that might have been seen by you, because, I have no control over what I am being sent or messaged. The answer lies in my response, most of the time I simply do not react to anything weird that was sent to me. So the fact that I am not entertaining that person, should render you, your answer.
I have cheated on partners before, and I am not ashamed to admit it. My life was at its happiest when I maintained three boyfriends all at once, each one fulfilled a role the other could not master. Luckily those silly days are long gone.
Just the other day, I saw a gruesome video on social media of how a wife and her cronies attacked a mistress. It was hair and nails literally flying. Why would you confront the mistress alone if it took two people who decided to step over the line?
One of the responses I got to my question said:
First of all, I will bepissed off as hell, because when I love I do so whole heartedly and no one deserves to be hurt like that. Secondly, I will confront him and most probably just walk away, cry myself to sleep for a few months then put on my big girl panties and move on with my life’.
Makes sense right?
So, what is it that I saw? Let’s just say, I got confirmation over the weekend that the person I thought I was seeing, is seeing someone else too.
I am so stupid, always giving people the benefit of the doubt and in most instances they do not deserve my good heart. However, the writing was on the wall prior to what I have seen. I guess I was just too blind to see it.
The bickering, the mind games, the manipulation, the blaming. Anything to start a fight and not having to spend time with me. Making me believe I am this horrible person, with very little value. After stomaching all of this I had to attend a birthday party of a good friend. I slapped on some mascara, and red lipstick and I showed up! Old me, would have never done that. I would have withered and died….on my bed the entire weekend.
So what now?
Do I confront him? Do I confront her?
Do I kick the sh….t out of her and warn her to stay away from my mans?
Or do I go throw out all her windows? I know, we are very tempted to do these things.
I do know that many a wife, husband, girlfriend, and partner, choose to turn a blind eye to cheating and hope it goes away. They have their own manipulation tactics to get him/her to pay for the infidelity. Hell, many would call you out as a liar if you even dare to tell them that their ‘’perfect partner’’ is a lying and cheating ass.
For me, this is it.
Good Riddance.
Nelson Mandela once said: ‘’ Sometimes there is nothing one can do to save something that must die’’.
Someone asked the other day on social media, how long does it take to get over someone? And someone else replied: Five working days.
Five working days it will be then, to get you out of my system, dude.
Ps: Happy Valentine’s Day In Advance!
xoxo
‘’Curvy Scorpio’’
