‘’There are things even love can’t do. Before I got married, I believed love could do anything. I learned soon enough that it couldn’t bear the weight of four years without children. If the burden is too much and stays too long, even love bends, cracks, comes close to breaking and sometimes does break. ‘’But even when it’s in a thousand pieces around your feet, that does’nt mean it’s no longer love.’’ Ayobami Adebayo.
I have been an avid reader for most of my life.
However, people change, other things keep you busy and you loose yourself and the hobbies are forgotten, especially if you have to juggle a whole lot of things all at once. Thus, reading became less of a priority and I can unfortunately not come close to those who read multiple books per month.
I surprised myself recently when I finished a book within one week.
Instead of going to sleep at my usual time, I continued to read for an hour or two and the book was also really easy to read and it captivated me from the beginning till the end. The book is titled Stay With Me – Ayobami Adebayo.
I am super proud of myself and the hunger to read more has kicked in.
So, what has reading got to do with this you may find yourself thinking?
This phrase triggered the trial of thought: ‘’But even when it’s in a thousand pieces around your feet, that doesn’t mean it’s no longer love.’’
I am in the process of healing from a horrible love encounter, and my heart has been broken irrevocably, and love is currently in a thousand pieces around my feet, and when I least expected it I met someone.
I am very sure I am not yet ready so I ran for the hills.
But this person is coming for me hard and we seem to have a connection.
I am going to be painfully honest and tell you that I am just not sure of anything anymore when it comes to relationships or men. I also do not know anymore what I want in a relationship, I don’t know what my type is anymore, hell I don’t even know who I am – all thanks to a serious dribbling encounter that has pulled the rug right from under my feet and I am still reeling in shock, daily.
So with all of these insecurities, I promised to get to know this person and take it day by day, hell, we all deserve a bit of attention and love.
But, what I was not ready for was having to do this whilst living through an awful pandemic. Dating has become much more troublesome for me.
These are the challenges I have been experiencing:
* We can’t go out as a normal couple due to regulations,
* We have to be indoors the whole time – a definite NO as in my case I would be exposing my children,
*Also, visiting each other might not be a good idea as you might infect each other with the virus, so it is fairly risky,
* Now we are forced to rely on cellphone contact mostly, which is not a great idea as this hampers the connection – I am not a video call fan,
* Not getting to know this person properly in the normal sense can conceal major red flags that one could have picked up earlier.
What have you been experiencing as challenging whilst dating during this pandemic?